What’s going on with my relationship?!?! Since when do men tell their girlfriends they should just leave them and find someone else? That’s pretty much what B is saying me…. He’s not good enough for me and I shouldn’t be wasting my time dating him.
First, B asked me why I would want to be stuck with someone who isn’t going anywhere. Then he tells me that I am still young and he doesn’t want 10 years to go by and I regret wasting so much time on him.
I don’t know what brought this on. We have been together for 3 years and this is just coming up. The only thing I can think of that would spark his thoughts would be finding out how much I can make after I graduate college. I think he feels threatened. In his line of work and with the way our economy is going, he will probably only make $13/hr at most and I could make around $20/hr with my degree.
We have discussed him going back to school and picking up a certificate in something so he can make a little more money. He could have a certificate in something in less that two years. He is really afraid to go back to school, he ended up dropping out of high school to get a GED. I really want him to go back to school because I don’t think that he could survive doing what he does now. I also want him to get a certificate and a good job so that he can shove it in his families face. He has been told ever since he was about 13 that he would always be a bum and never amount to anything. B admits that being told that as a kid did have a negative affect on his life.
I love this man more than anyone should ever love another person. I have gotten to the point where I can’t see my life without him. I just don’t really know how to approach this situation. I know love doesn’t put food on the table, but it has to amount to something. Doesn’t it? I don’t want to call it quits, especially for this reason. How do I convince him that making less then your partner does not make you less of a man?
